staying-positive.jpgHow do you lift yourself up from the muck? When others or your own inner voice knocks you down, how do you dust it off and get up on your feet? How do you remain positive among the negative?

These are tough questions. The voices of others, from the past and present (and sometimes future in what we imagine people will say), and the inner voice that is influenced by years of shaping, often by unfair criticisms, can make life hard.

I believe there are several techniques that can help shape our approach to rising above the negative.

  1. Pray: connect with your God and your inner self. Here you can put things into context, where you can seek healing, and feel empowered to move-on.
  2. Seek Guidance: Find a trusted spiritual mentor who can ask the right questions to help you find the answers that are already within you. Sometimes a little reframing can shift your focus and attention.
  3. Change the Narrative: Get up, take a shower, go for a walk. Play your favorite song, bake a cake, clean a room. Start by making decisions that can help you feel better about yourself with a sense of accomplishment.
  4. Be Patient: With yourself! Sometimes you need time to mourn, and a time to be sad and down. It is how you move through it that you can move above it. Seek help when necessary, and find peace with yourself- that is the greatest accomplishment.

What other techniques do you recommend?

Here is a great resource with other ideas to remain positive: http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/stay-positive